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How’s Your Physical Health—REALLY?

A lot of pastors are fat, including ME.  The other day I stepped on the scales and was promptly mortified with round mass of man I have become.  This is sad because a pastor that refuses to address his weight is hypocritical.  I will often tell people to have “self control” when it comes to sex before marriage or have “self control” when it comes to smoking…but I can’t seem to practice “self control” in a buffet line.  In Baptist world, the one I am most familiar with, many of the pastors have a problem with people drinking alcohol but they would NEVER speak against someone eating too many biscuits.  There is even a inside joke of “Baptist Butts” to refer to the oversized nature of our posteriors in our churches.  Statistics prove that way more people die every year due to obesity or obesity related (and preventable disorders) than alcohol yet the SBC remains silent on the subject and it’s literally killing us.

Here’s the deal, I am not comfortable telling you how much I currently weight but please know it is embarrassing and reflects my lack of discipline in this area of my life and no matter how hard I pray the fat would not go away (trust me I’ve tried).  I have realized my weight was a spiritual issue and I have to do something about it so I am letting the world know that I’m doing the following and you have permission to keep me accountable:

  • I am beginning to exercise at least 30 minutes at least 6 days a week.  I don not have the income to purchase a gym membership but last year I found the time and space to run 3 times a week and I know how to add 3 more workouts, I just need to do it.
  • I am cutting out ALL soft drinks those things (which I don’t drink all that often) alone were responsible for hundreds of extra calories a day that I did not need.
  • I will quit ALL snacking after 6:00 at night.
  • I will begin eating healthier.  This will be hard as I am always out eating and hosting people but I have to learn that if I “eat clean” most of the time then I can eat whatever I want some of the time.  I love salads salads and veggies and I can cut way back on the carbohydrates.

Our bodies are supposed to be a temple fro the Holy Spirit to reside and I an verging on a mega church and  need to downsize. If you think I am being tough on this one it is because I am.  I know how hard it is to take control back of this area, I know how if feels to struggle with this and I know what it is like to overcome, I have done it before.

So how’s your physical health?  Would you want to join me on this journey?  Let me know your thoughts below


Shamefully, my bravest post yet!

I have been out and about for the last few weeks and I asked for a friend of mine to write a post for me.  Unfortunately, because of the state of the church I have chosen not to reveal my guest name but  I will say that shamefully, this is my bravest post yet.  Please take a few minutes and read  some of the bravest and honest post I have read in a while and then lets please begin this conversation.  I look forward to your comments below.

My father sits across from me. He points at me, and his voice makes it clear that he can’t imagine the possibility, even as a joke. “You’d better not be one.”

He doesn’t know.

Two older men in church, whom I respect greatly, nod in solidarity. “I wouldn’t allow those people as members.”

They don’t know.

A dear, kind woman looks at me in shock. “You don’t believe in that, do you?”

She doesn’t know.

My own convention expresses its ‘continued opposition to and disappointment in’ the Boy Scouts for allowing boys like I used to be membership.

They also act with great care to declare their love in Christ for people like me… regardless of ‘perceived’ sexual orientation.

They don’t know, but now you do. I’m a firm follower of Christ, and I’m also a homosexual man. I’d like to talk about how I feel in the church, and why I believe the church should be doing better.

A few years ago, in response to an increasing number of homosexual teens committing suicide, the “It Gets Better” campaign was started. The message was a simple one: offering hope, in the form of promises that the pain those teens were going through was temporary, and that life got better. It was a tremendous success, and that phrase has become a byword for anyone facing bullying and rejection.

Contrast this to my experience with some parts of the Christian community. Shame seems to be the dialogue objective, focusing exclusively on that one facet of life. With the usual combination of selective Scriptural sniping and heated argumentation, the Christian seems to desire driving away the listener, rather than drawing them closer to Christ.

Christians have forgotten that sin can’t be shamed out of someone. They have confused changing behavior for changing hearts, and the disapprobation of the Church with the conviction of the Spirit.

The world offers pride and celebration, the church shame and rejection.

We have to change that. We have to be a place where anyone can show their imperfections and temptations.

It works. Despite the above conversations, there have been those, like my pastors, who have welcomed me in church, who honor the difficult choices I’m being asked to make, and who will be there when times are rough. Their love in Christ is based on who I am, not who I am perceived to be.

Let’s start there.

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